Like you, I have a lot going on in my life. There are plenty of times when I’ve felt overwhelmed and in need of peace to help get me through a troubling period. When I feel like everything is falling apart, I do these things to help me hold it together until I am able to build my mental strength to tackle things properly. While you may not be able to accomplish all 5 tips to hold it together when everything is falling apart, I hope that you are able to use at least one of the tips to help you through when you’re feeling low.
1. Start Small
Just do it. Sometimes I set a goal of doing something for 1m. This is critical for me because sometimes I don’t want to do a task so badly that I have to fake myself out with little goals that will help me feel as if i have achieved something.
2. Leave Everyone Behind
For those of us with kids, this is easier said than done, but is necessary. There might be a million fires to put out by the time you return, but wouldn’t 5m to yourself be totally worth it? I have to hide in the bathroom sometimes, but even there my kinds may find me.
My house is always just clean enough. I’m still in the process of trying to get to sustainable somewhat minimalism- for about 2 years now. Sometimes our house builds up clutter and wherever I turn, there is crap on every surface. I find that when there is a bunch of stuff around, it detracts from my peaceful state and I begin feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes I go through a period of “Turn off,” when I don’t want to deal with anything, but when I finally get my act together to tackle the mess that’s around me, I start feeling better.
4. Talk It Out on Coverse
There are a few apps I have started trying out to help me cope with the everyday stresses of my life, but there is one in particular I have found useful. I downloaded an app called coverse. It allows me to talk to someone who doesn’t know who I am, but is a listening ear for when I need to vent or just need someone to talk to. It’s hard for me to open up to people, but this app has managed to help me open up a bit without feeling like i’m revealing bits of myself to people I’d rather not share with.
5. Write it Out
I’Ve started journaling. When I first started out, I would write about the same things over and over. Then I started writing from prompts that I would read about. This helped me to write about other things and also helped me to get other thoughts out other than complaints and problems.
Now, I don’t really have to use the prompts because I write about different interests or things I find interesting, but the prompts still help when I want to ‘turn off’ everyday musings and write about something different.
Also, when I put thoughts down on paper, it helps me to see a different perspective or acknowledge other ways I can solve a problem.
Just doing these simple things has helped me tremendously when I am feeling down and out of control. I hope you are able to use these tips or at least have them trigger ideas for ways you will be able help yourself feel better when you feel like everything is falling apart.
I’m sure many of you have your own ways of dealing with stress and overwhelm.
How do you hold things together when everything is falling apart?